The 5 second rule TIP

Give yourself the 5-second rule…

Before responding to someone in either a positive or negative way, give yourself the 5-second rule by:

Counting up to 5 seconds in your head

By doing so, you will be able to gather your thoughts, words and actions and respond in a way you would like to respond, rather than giving your emotional reaction immediately, and consequently regretting it, as this response wasn’t up to your standards.

You will end up being SORRY and beating yourself up about it, which is not good for your self-esteem.




Think about it….

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16 Replies to “The 5 second rule TIP”

  1. Good tip Habib! I am a supervisor at work and my mentor taught me to never respond to anything upsetting until the next day. She told me to sleep on it so when I did talk over the situation I did so with a clear head and anger would not cloud my responses.

    1. Dear Chas, that’s a very good strategy you have in place. I think the bottom line is, we need to be in our senses before responding to anything negative, which can be counting to 5, sleeping on it or anything else you may have developed through your personal experiences and it’s working for you. Good luck


    2. I love this tip, Honestly! Because it will and has already helped me to reduce to say “Am sorry” all the time. Thank you so much for this.

      1. Hi Abosede, you are absolutely right there. If we think before we react we can save ourselves from a lot of trouble and heartache. I am glad to know you like this little reminder and I hope you will apply it to your life always. Let us know if you need any further advice. Best wishes

  2. This is such good advice and definitely something that I need to remember to do.

    Sometimes I write angry email reponses when I get an email I dont like. But I don’t send them, until I have given it some thought.

    1. Good idea Chris, you can always write down how you feel and let all your emotions out. This is I believe one of the proven method that helps you come to some sort of perspectives. Thank you for sharing your experience.


  3. This is a really good tip and is something I both use myself and teach my kids, I think it’s a great way of avoiding snap reactions that are often emotional rather than logical. Can I ask what made you choose 5 seconds rather than the more traditional ‘counting to ten’?

    1. Hi Amy, I’m happy to hear you’re using this method for you and your family. Teaching kids this method at an early age will help them develop to master situations that will be intense further in their life.

      I chose the 5 second rule as it’s my very own tried and tested length of seconds required to give an optimum response and it has been working for me everytime.

      I feel the 10 second method is too long and the person waiting for a response may think you’re being rude and ignorant!

      Regards, Habib

  4. Yeah, I do this all the time. I’ve found that I will regret my immediate negative response, and that I need to take a breath and gather myself to respond in a way that doesn’t make me seem cranky.

  5. This is a very good tip. I think it is very important for a person NOT to react emotionally straightaway without thinking. This tip of yours will definitely help others.



    1. There is a great saying of some famous person: ‘I have regretted more on reacting in a situation that not reacting in a situation.’ It’s so true that our reaction and words sometimes set our value and respect on others. So live and let live in a respectful and humble way. Peace to all.


  6. I feel this 5 second rule is going to benefit me more than anyone in this world. I am so glad to have landed on your website to learn fantastic and useful tips and tricks to help me live happier. My question is what if the pause to gathering your thoughts lasts longer than 5 seconds?

    1. Thanks for the lovely feedback. I can relate to your feelings so I can understand where you are coming from. If the pause is longer than 5 seconds, just keep holding onto your positive thoughts. Buying back more than 5 seconds might help you calm down even further and thus less emotional response. Good luck

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